Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Relationship advice from Emily Giffin - 'Love the One You're With'

Yep, the woman’s good! And besides, you can never get too much relationship advice.

Emily Giffin really knows how to write about relationships. ‘Love the one you're with’ is the first book that I have read from her and for me it’s a page turner. Throughout the book, you could relate to the characters because of their stories but also because Emily describes their stories in great human detail. At the end of the book, you can either attest to having a similar story or know someone who has.

The story is basically told from the main character Ellen's point of view. She’s married to Andy, the guy of her dreams; he absolutely adores her and would do anything for her. He’s handsome, caring, considerate and wealthy. More importantly, he's her soul mate and they both bring out the best in each other. How their relationship began and blossomed is one of those classic ( and sometimes stereotypical) stories about true love. Their relationship is settled, comfortable and mature and you know that it’s going to last a long time.

However before Andy, there was Leo. Leo is more or less Ellen’s ‘great love’. Their relationship was (is) quite different; it was extremely passionate and sometimes tumultuous. I guess everyone can attest to this type of ravishing, all consuming love that will never leave you. So the real drama begins when Leo tries to rekindle their flame. Naturally Ellen begins to question her relationship with her husband and the dreaded "what ifs" begin to creep in. Ultimately she has to make a decision to either give Leo a second chance or ‘love the one she’s with’.

As always, there were a few quotes that stood out for me and they just go to show you the talent that is Emily Giffin. For example:

“ I read once that when the hours pass in a blur while you work, you know you have found you calling, and although every day isn’t like this for me, I certainly am no stranger to that immense feeling.” Pg51

“Haven’t you ever heard that true love is supposed to make you a better person? Uplift you?” pg 62

“But maybe that’s what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way.” Pg 306

“I tell my self, no two loves are identical……”pg 312

You definitely have to give this one a read and if you do, hit up the comments section on this post. Let me know if you agree and liked the book or if it didn’t move you.

Your partner in reading,


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